The Structure + Spell of Patriarchy as we evolve into m:wE

As shared via an impromptu mini memoir/origin story

My entire human life has been in observance of and inquiry to understand the nature of and dismantling mechanisms of patriarchy in service of the global paradigm shift I used to think of as a shift from “me” to “we,” until I came to feel it as m:wE.

m:wE is a new element. In esoteric physics, it is the energy of the perfected ratio of me to we and we to me.

It is the complete integration of the nature of this Cosmos: Differentiated Communion.

Notice it above as a trinity. M, W, E.

You may mistakenly have briefly experienced the idea of me and we as polarities, as a duality. In correct ratio, they create a third thing which completes the trinity union and generates the new element.

Humans exist at the nexus of the infinite quantum and the experience of linearity which occurs as a result of creation opening and unfurling spheres into spirals.

Creational energies in this Cosmos occur in trinity spirals.

All things in this Cosmos have a purpose to its greatest benefit. When we are in examination of that which appears to be outside of any benefit, it is time to look more deeply at our translation, our definition.

In my childhood years, I communed with patriarchy as a physically active athletic girl denied access to entry into the next level of where my body desired to adventure solely because I was a girl.

I also communed with patriarchy as a rabid young reader repeatedly finding that most of the interesting characters that resonated for what was in my soul were boys and men. I read Dune at 11, thrilled to find myself in these pages only later to have people regularly tell me “oh yes, you are definitely Bene Gesseritt!” meant entirely as a positive way to see and recognize my interesting and unique magicks and never seeing that, in fact, I was the Kwisatz Haderach.¹

I was raised very much by maples and moss in a state of largely benign neglect comingled with an occasionally explosively disruptive stew of narcissism, borderline personality disorder, alcoholism, and adultery by the adults in my inner sphere.

I always saw and understood clearly that none of these occurred from malevolence or dark intention. All were simply mired in patriarchy in their own ways (although I didn’t call it patriarchy as a child, I didn’t quite have the words for it yet).

This didn’t dim my youthful frustration and even at times despair. In some ways, it only worsened things. After all, I could play the embattled hero, the David to Goliath, far better if there was evil and malignance afoot.

There was only the burden and the exhaustion of patriarchy for as far as the eye could see.

Later, in my undergrad years in the 80s, on a famous urban university campus at the time alight with intense intellectual debate and impassioned exploration of “postcolonial” frameworks for understanding and advancing human society, I explored academic perspectives of patriarchy from various cultural, philosophical, and religious perspectives.

I could feel the underlying energy threads of the spell of patriarchy and delighted in my brain’s ongoing search for the translation and synthesis across disciplines and texts to weave it all together into one singular and accessible distillation of its particular magic.

Throughout my professional career, the throughline of all of my jobs, despite the variety of industry and focus areas, was this pursuit of the “me” to “we.” A pursuit of what I thought of at times as fairness. Of equity. Of the proper sharing of the plentiful abundance this beautiful planet provides for all.

I played with this inside the private sector, government, philanthropy, non profits. I created services and programs that helped people, products and trainings based on science and research and community wisdom. I managed 8 figure capital funds designed to open opportunity for great new ideas, for new housing and infrastructure for disenfranchised communities, for risk taking in environments where risk taking was otherwise denied.

I explored the development of double and then triple bottom-line business models. I went back to school in 2001 for my MBA to deepen my understanding of how to harness market forces for social “good,” all in pursuit of the radical paradigm shift I understood as my life’s deepest purpose. In fact, classes began just days after 9/11: the twin towers of the World Trade Center falling only days after the twin towers of my marriage also fell and I unexpectedly became a single mother… THAT was a wild time…

Throughout it all, I moved along my own spiral of unwinding and clearing childhood and young adulthood trauma and neurobiological programming one bit at a time. Frustrated by how it felt these elements continually slowed me down, held me back, kept my true potential dangled just out of my reach. The journey of the late bloomer, the journey of the entanglement of giftedness and trauma.

In the summer of 2017, I reached the end of the line in my exploration of current business structures as vehicles for change and vehicles for my own evolution.

I was tired of hiding the mystic that I am from those who would never have believed how deeply it explained much of my successes, who would seek to destroy and diminish what was rising ever stronger within me.

I was tired of dragging dozens and hundreds and thousands of people along with my vision, tired of the patience required to explain all that I saw ahead for us, tired of dumbing the vision down to a level others could execute at but not feel the safety of the destination that was all but assured if we would simply row together in the harmony I designed.

I launched my own solo shop, Off The Map w/ Melanie, delighting in setting out to sail off the map in my own being starship, skimming lightly around the planet at my own speed, wind in my hair, salt in my nose from the sea spray as I flew. Going where no one had gone before. That was always what called me the most. Thank you Gene Roddenberry.

Image of Captain Kirk surrounded by soft fuzzy critters called Tribbles²

It’s been almost seven years since I launched my own ship into the beautiful great unknown. Ensuring the most highly gifted humans on the planet fully evolve into what they truly came here to be… just as I steward myself through that journey into the full embodiment of my epic cosmic self with my original essence into my human body… and support the Earth in her own incredible evoLEAP. I have worked with her since her origins.

This year the planetary energy theme is absolute revelation.

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The revelation is truly of all that is within, and there will be a variety of external mirrors of this occurring at our individual level and at the societal level.

This is also the year we see rapid acceleration of the crumbling and falling away of the structure of the old society that are not aligned with the new planetary and cosmic energies. They were held up by energy architecture that has been removed so they are like a tent whose poles have been removed.

This includes energies such as cult energy, savior and martyr energy, bifurcation energy aka chosen vs exiled, interference of evolution, and more. See past shares for details, use the search function if you have specific you seek.

We are just about at the tipping point of the societal shift. The acceleration sensation is gathering.

Notice the “opposites attract” effect that is extra alive in the field and in society. People love to talk about the divide, the bifurcation, the entrenchment of the two sides (whatever the context).

In fact, the two ends of the duality poles are collapsing faster and faster as they close in on union.

They will join.

This union is what calls in the piercing by the new macro Cosmic Spiral that began Dec 2022, creating an emergence bursting forth of a “child,” a third, and then the three are in union in a creational spiral of its own from there, following along the most macro level Cosmic Spiral.

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For example, very alive in the collective field is the US presidential debate last night. The two debaters are nearly indistinguishable in so many ways. People grasp for the differences and it’s understandable why. The moral incompetence of one and the mental incompetence of another. We want to be able to label it. To tame it.

The chaos energy radically alive around both of these people as we watch the beginning of the end of the American Empire. This should be no surprise to anyone on any level.

The only question is the manner in which the structure falling occurs.

I stand for a gentle crumble to minimize the painful impact on the many disenfranchised. A complete dissolution of the structure that has held the zero sum game pain of patriarchy in place.

Make no mistake, this exact same work must occur within yourself and WILL OCCUR regardless of whether you embrace it or not.

You can choose a gentle dismantling of the empire of patriarchy within your own being or you can resist and eventually the inner energy will create a radically destructive rebellion to destroy it.

Chaos increases as the two poles of dualities approach each other. Chaos is the infinite quantum arising as the unification/completion approaches. You can look for this within your own processes as you continue your evolutionary journey.

Remember we are always in the motion and rhythm of the deep sacred current of lifeforce, always honoring those cycles which include a constant movement through black holes and singularities and white holes. From my Jan 17 post:

We’ve surrendered to the black hole.

It’s taken us wholly, like falling into the most magical mysterious waters.

As we’ve been pulled inexorably inward, further and further, deeper and deeper, all sensation and awareness of who we are has been flushed out. Washed away.

At the deepest inner core of it, we have been held in stillness.

And then slowly the opening begins.

The opening of the white hole within us that we are also inside of.

And inpouring comes our original unique essence.

Clarified and cleared.

Pouring through the inner white hole expanding and flowing through us like a pure mountain stream, the waters gentle at first and then rushing to flow through all of ourself, flowing freely and filling is entirely and streaming out from us in overflow and affluence in contribution to The ALL.

And the white hole keeps streaming out from our own center the beauty that we are.

Welcome to the new.

How does this all relate to patriarchy?

In my years of decolonizing myself and then helping others with highly gifted brains do the same, I had yet to complete my distilled translation into words of the energy structure of patriarchy.

Then I experienced the Hawai’in mystic, Ke’oni Hanalei (whom you will recall me mentioning in prior shares), sharing his understanding of the purpose of patriarchy as retrieved through his lineage of 18,000 years:

       “The purpose of patriarchy is to recover from a crisis.” -Ke’oni Hanalei

You can imbibe his full sharing here.

Receiving this transfusion was an instant completion for me and the openings ever since have continued to generously expand and reveal themselves within.

In this, I have been able to fully open to the exhaustion and burden of patriarchy at the macro and within myself and the opportunity for the final relieving ourselves of this burden.

It is only after this final relieving within that I feel the interest to organize and share in an accessible manner the structure and spell of patriarchy which I have been in the study of for my entire life.

The structure + SPELL of patriarchy:

• A center is defined as the ideal.

• Key characteristics for this in the dominant paradigm of the West: white, male, wealthy, healthy, specific visual standards for attractiveness. (can vary culturally, the mechanics are the same)

• The further away from the center one feels oneself to be, the greater the sense of disempowerment, disenfranchisement, and distance from perceived needed resources and recognition for value.

• In truth, there is no actual center. It is pure fiction designed to entrance everyone.

• Esoterically it is an actual spell.

• The spell inverts one’s awareness of the true center within each self. The true inner center is the entryway into limitless infinite reSources of every type and the experience of one’s infinite and precisely unique value.

• By placing the false center outside everyone’s self, each is cut off from their inner pure original ESSENCE which is a genuine existential crisis and trauma.

• The false center construct also creates a zero sum game by limiting the perception of what resources (inner or outer) are available (the inner circle pie is limited), turning humanity into a giant bucket of crabs climbing on top of each other trying to gain dominance/access to a center which does not exist. 

• This is why society is so fully obsessed with celebrity in both entertainment/sports and business. Society is hypnotized by the spell of the possibility of getting closer to this center via imitation and studies their methods in the deepest devotion, lost in the life of absolute falsehood and inversion.

Study this. Sit with it.

See where you can find the places within your own energy field that are pulled to this false center over your own.

Hold these places tenderly. 

They are places of deep exhaustion from perpetual crisis, with crisis defined as imminent threat to life.

These are all aspects of the inner boy, the juvenile masculine, disconnected from ESSENCE, from the mother, from LIFE, desperately seeking to recover.

Hold him with love and forgiveness and apology in equal measure.

Be with him for as long as he needs to begin to believe the crisis is over, his reunion with ESSENCE, mother, future divine partner within, is beginning.

Thank you for being here. I love you infinitely.

1. Dune is a classic sci fi high fantasy novel published in 1965 by Frank Herbert. The main character is a young man, Paul Atreides, who at age 15 experiences a mystic awakening of powers to see through time, called the Kwisatz Haderach. A group of female mystics/witches are political powerbrokers throughout the Universe and are called Bene Gesserit.

2. Image from Star Trek episode The Trouble with Tribbles. Gene Roddenberry was the creator of Star Trek and the tagline “To boldly go where no man has gone before.”